Navigating a Divorce from a Narcissist: 3 Key Tips for Empowerment
Sep 19, 2023Divorcing a narcissist can be an emotionally and financially draining experience. I know because I've been there with many women. It's a journey filled with challenges, manipulation, and uncertainty.
But I want you to know that you can emerge from this difficult chapter in your life stronger and more empowered than ever. As you interact with the narcissist and are on the receiving end of his gaslighting, it might not seem possible. But trust me that you can start using techniques that protect you from his abuse and help you begin your new life, free from his financial abuse and emotional manipulation.
I have three key tips to use when divorcing a narcissist, and at the end of this blog post, I'll introduce you to a valuable resource that can make the process smoother and help you be more financially secure.
1. Prioritize Self-Care and Emotional Support
One of the first things to remember when divorcing a narcissist is prioritizing self-care and seeking emotional support. Narcissists often use manipulation and emotional abuse to control their partners, leaving them isolated and emotionally drained.
Contact friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide the emotional support you need during this challenging time. Self-care is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional well-being, so make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Participating in hobbies, going for a leisurely walk, or just losing yourself in a book or movie can help you recharge and reset.
2. Document Everything
You've heard it before: document, document, document. When dealing with a narcissistic spouse, documentation is your best friend. Keep detailed records of all interactions, especially those related to finances and child custody. This documentation can be invaluable in court, providing evidence of their behavior and helping protect your rights.
Save emails, text messages, and any other communication that may be relevant to your divorce case. Make notes of interactions and significant events, being sure to write down the date and time, who was present, and what happened. Keep a record of financial transactions, assets, and expenses to ensure that you receive a fair settlement.
3. Secure Your Finances
Financial independence is essential when divorcing a narcissist. This might seem difficult to achieve, especially if you are experiencing financial abuse. But taking steps toward securing your own money that your husband cannot take away, and a credit card that he cannot utilize or close, will be essential.
Narcissists often attempt to hide money and other assets, manipulate financial information, or withhold resources to gain an advantage in the divorce process. You need to find the hidden accounts so you can get a fair settlement in your divorced. You need that money to be financially secure in your new life. Get started with our Divorcing a Narcissist resource.